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October 21st, 2010

Someone recently posted this on my Facebook page:

Perhaps you've heard the story of the little bird. He had his wing over his eye and he was crying.
The owl said to the bird, "You are crying."
"Yes," said the little bird, and he pulled his wing away from his eye.
"Oh, I see," said the owl. "You're crying because the big bird pecked out your eye."
And the little bird said, "No, I'm not crying because the big bird pecked out my eye. I'm crying because I let him."

Having believed that I was a victim for so much of my life, this truly struck a chord with me!  It took a long, long time and much emotional clearing and personal growth before I could even admit that yes, I behaved like a victim, because I believed that I was.  My family environment, cultural beliefs, social conditioning and peer pressure had all shaped my perception of what was taking place in my life and it took a period of exhaustion, stress and depression before I even realised that my 'problem' had a name:  I believed that I was a victim of circumstances and helpless to change things.  Now I know differently!  So this is what I posted back:

Wow, this is so powerful!! How many times have we let someone do something to us that we didn't want, without fighting against it, because:  he/she's too big, I can't fight him/her - I'm helpless;  they won't really hurt me, they wouldn't that;  I don't want to make a fuss or create a scene;  I must have done something wrong for them to have done this;  and so many other reasons that our head gives us to stop us standing up for ourselves.  But we DO have the power to stop aggression and violence towards ourselves!!!  If we fail to react, it's because somewhere, at some time, a person or situation has taught us that we are not valuable enough to stand up for.  That we don't have the right to protect ourselves.  That we've done something 'wrong', so we don't deserve to be treated well.  That we're not worth it. I'm not talking guns here - that's a different situation - but I'm talking about showing ourselves, by word and deed, that we DO matter, that we ARE worth care, and respect, and love.  We are valuable FOR OURSELVES ALONE, our intrinsic selves, not for what we do or believe or own. No-one else, whoever they are, has the right to devalue us.  If you don't believe that, read the self-help books, see a counsellor, find a role model who values themselves and listen to their words, watch their actions.  You ARE worth it!  BELIEVE IT!!!

August 24th, 2010

Hi again, everyone!  The Ilahinoor workshop was fantastic!  Ilahinoor is a powerful yet gentle energy, and very easy to use.  We learned how to attune each other to the energy, and also the recommended hand positions for a healing session.  Kiara himself is a lovely, gentle man who feels strongly that this energy should be available to everyone, rather than being priced out of the reach of those who need it but can't afford it.  There's no need for various levels of instruction, each costing more than the last - having once been attuned to this energy, it can then be passed on and shared, very simply.  There are no rigid rules about using Ilahinoor either - you listen to your own inner guidance and simply use it in the way which feels right to you.  Kiara travels round the world, so if you are interested in learning more about Ilahinoor, have a look at  Sarah and her partner, David, also are happy to travel and share Ilahinoor in workshops wherever you are.

Someone has shared the most amazing video with me on their Facebook page, and I now want to share it with you.  It's the most incredible, inspiring story of what the human spirit can achieve... //

The message is powerful.  Don't give up.  Don't ever give up!  Because if you do, you become a victim.  Of you.  Look at what Nick has achieved, against all odds, and know that each one of us can make a difference in the world.

July 30th, 2010

Latest news - the WakeUp Cafe online forum is now up and running!  Please click on the link on the home page and you'll be directed to the forum.  Happy discussions!

The Ilahinoor energy healing workshop is this weekend - I can't believe it's come round so soon!  I'm very drawn to this energy because of its connection to Egypt, so am really looking forward to meeting Kiara Windrider, the man who first brought this energy through.  I'll let you know about it in my next blog.

I've made some other changes to the website, including a request for people to let me know of any books, magazines or other reading material that I can put in the Reading Room.  Also, if you would like to provide an article, or want to recommend a website that you've found very helpful, please let me know.

Speak to you soon!

July 5th, 2010

A friend has just told me about Kevin Skinner, an unemployed chicken farmer who appeared last year in America's Got Talent and ended up winning the show.  Have a look at his first audition - and think about how often people make snap judgments based on first impressions because of the way a person looks, or talks, without being willing to give that person a chance.  Kevin got his chance - and within 20 seconds had totally transformed the audience's first negative judgements!  Like Susan Boyle and Paul Potts in Britain's Got Talent, Kevin had the courage to stand up in front of people he didn't know and face potential ridicule.  Don't let yourself judge others based on first impressions - because those first impressions may be very wrong.  It's inspirational to watch people like Kevin, Susan and Paul, because they dared to follow their dreams!

June 30th, 2010

Have a look on YouTube at Milan Amini!  He describes himself as "a self inspired life coach" and has been studying human potential and universal Laws since the age of 13.  I'm very impressed by his videos - his teaching style is informal, but don't be misled, because he is offering valuable information!

Milan has studied some of the industry's greats "such as Bob Proctor, John Assaraf, Jim Rohn, and more" and hopes that you not only learn from these teachings but also put them into practice.  The short videos - just a few minutes long - are aimed at anyone under the age of 20, but are also very useful to everyone interested in making changes in their lives.  He talks about things we think are "impossible" to achieve;  about setting and achieving goals;  about shifting your paradigms and about changing your attitude.  Two more excellent videos of his that I watched recently are The Law of Attraction and The Law of Vibration, but these are no longer available on YouTube - hopefully they'll be returned soon, because Milan Amini is an amazing young man who speaks simply but with great focus, clarity and wisdom. 

By the way, Milan is 16.

June 24th, 2010

Hello again, everyone!  Just to keep you up to date with what's happening at The WakeUp Cafe, I'm having some technical problems with the first issue of the newsletter, but I hope to have these resolved soon. 

To those of you who have signed up on Facebook to The WakeUp Cafe group, thanks for doing so!

The Reading Room has recently had some recommended books added - this list will be extended soon.  At the moment, the books mentioned are ones that I personally have found extremely helpful on my journey.

The Reading Room also has details of a special event taking place at the end of July in Aberdeen, Scotland.  However, if you are interested in learning more about Ilahinoor, I recommend that you visit the websites mentioned.  And Sarah and Kiara love to travel all over the world and share Ilahinoor with people, so if you feel drawn to Ilahinoor, they may be able to arrange a workshop in your area.

I'd also like to share a recent personal experience with you.   Writing this first newsletter, and letting people know about the Cafe, has provided some interesting challenges for me.  I've found myself limiting who I told about this Cafe, because of what they might think about it - and about me.  Some soul-searching showed me that this has been about my fear of stepping forward and being seen.  And about my fear of being judged by others, and possibly found wanting. 

But if I want to open doors for others, I've got to have the courage to actually do it!  It's no use opening doors if I don't turn on the light and let people know the doors are there!  I have other websites, and in a way that's safe - because people can visit and decide whether they would like to contact me, or not.  But with the Cafe, I'm creating a blog, and a newsletter, so I'm really putting myself 'out there'.  It's an interesting challenge! 

Please do let me know of any topics that you'd like to read about in future newsletters...

June 4th, 2010

Hello again!  I'd like to thank everyone who has signed my guest book - I really appreciate it!  Right now I'm busy putting together the first newsletter, so any input you would like to provide is very much appreciated.  The Cafe also now has its own Facebook group, called...The WakeUpCafe!  There are some teething troubles with that which will hopefully be ironed out soon - I'll keep you posted.

The Cafe's Reading Room is currently under construction and you'll soon be able to sign up for the free newsletter.  It's really exciting getting the Cafe developed!


OPENING DAY!  May 17th, 2010

I actually had a dream where I was about to open a real cafe - I could see the name, as if I was really there - and I woke up and thought:  I want to do this.  It feels right. 

So here it is!  And this is my first ever blog!

Because this cafe has just opened, I'd appreciate it if anyone out there has any questions or topics you would like to talk about.  I'm planning to develop an online forum, but in the meantime, I will reply to everyone who writes to me.  I'll collect things that people are interested in, or want to talk about, and develop a newsletter that I can send out to everyone who has shown interest.  I'd also appreciate it if you would be willing to let me know of any issues that you're challenged by.  I'll answer you privately but also, if you're OK with that, I'd like to collect these and use the newsletter to talk - anonymously - about them and share solutions that I've used in my own life, and that I know work.

 Basically, I have a vision of this cafe as a resource, with a 'library' and 'chat room', where people can browse at their leisure, exchange ideas, and hopefully be helped and inspired by what they find in here.  I'd also like this to be a place where I can offer the information and experience I've gained over the last 20 years on my own personal healing journey to others out there who might be helped by it to wake up to their own potential and possibilities. 

I also plan to offer articles on various subjects, links to other sites that I would recommend, details of books, magazines and other resources that I've found very helpful and useful.  And anything else that you - my cafe's customers! - would find helpful.

As well as running this cafe, I also do soul coaching and offer spiritual and life guidance - if you're interested in this, please go to my
Soul Coaching

I look forward to hearing from you!  If you'd like to get in touch, my e-mail address is

Again, welcome to the WakeUp Cafe! I look forward to getting to know you.

Bye for now,



















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